Q&A

Q. During a scary dream who Is scared, the mind itself that Is dreaming or the Self?

A. Just as anything, the dream arises, the fear arises, but for no one. It’s just appearing as fear.

Q. My image about myself is a convenient trap.

A. Yes... it’s seeing that the trap is for no one that’s revealing. The image never belonged to a someone, and once that’s clear, the whole thing loses its grip.

Q. Who/what are you…? Underneath the masks (persona)…

A. Underneath the masks there isn’t a who or a what. The persona appears, but nothing sits behind it. It’s the looking for a something the mind can latch onto that keeps the search alive. See this, and the whole effort to find a someone underneath simply dissolves.

Q. If the “you” seeking freedom is imaginary, what exactly is supposed to awaken?

A. Nothing awakens because there was never a separate “someone” to begin with. What seems to fall away is only the assumption that there was a seeker at all. Nothing actually changes... the whole structure of “me becoming” is seen as part of the story. The seeker story falls away, but not for anyone... it’s simply recognized as something that never applied in the first place.

Q. If consciousness is not the mind. where does the mind come from?

A. The mind is just another appearance in consciousness. It doesn’t come from anywhere, it shows up the same way a thought shows up.

Q. Who/what are you without your personal history?

A. Without the personal history, the story, there’s no “who” or “what” left. There’s just the knowing... the simple awareness in which the idea of a someone could appear.

Q. What is the justification for the claim that awareness is non-biological in nature, that is, it precedes birth, and continues after the death of the physical body?

A. Awareness is not shown to start with birth or end with death because both birth and death appear in it. The body has a beginning and an ending, but the knowing of experience does not show up as something created or destroyed. That is why it’s described as non‑biological.

Q. So here people practice non duality with arrogance?  Duality is also ok, everything is ok. Just enjoy life.

A. What practice is there? Practice is only the mind imagining something must be done to become what you already are. Even the idea of “coming out of duality” is just another appearance. Who is there to do any of it? The whole notion of a someone practicing to reach nonduality is the very duality being questioned. When that imagined doer is seen for what it is, the rest falls away on its own.

Q. To come out of Duality one should do what?

Or what to do to know Non duality?

A. Ask who could do anything. See that there is no one to do and nothing to do. Even the asking of the question is just a conceptual appearance... a thorn used to remove a thorn and then discarded. It’s here now... the search only keeps the circle going because there’s still a belief in a “me” who will become something else.

Q.. How does “we are all one” coexist with setting a firm, no-contact boundary with a toxic person? Where does the ‘one’ end and ‘my non-negotiable well-being’ begin in your felt experience?

A. Oneness doesn’t cancel the organism’s natural intelligence. The body‑mind doesn’t step in front of a moving train just because it knows the train and the body are not-two. A boundary is simply that same non‑separate functioning avoiding harm.

Q. What is enlightenment?

A. Enlightenment is seen as something to reach only from the viewpoint of a separate person. When that separate person is seen to be imaginary, the whole idea of enlightenment falls apart. There is no one who becomes enlightened, no finish line, no state to attain, and no transformation that turns a person into something higher. What remains is simply life as it already is, without a seeker trying to complete it.

Q. What's the first question arises when seeker starts the journey?

A. The first question never needs to be “When will I wake up?” or “When will I get it?” Those come from the seeker’s imagination of a future self. The real beginning is simply “Who am I?”

Q. What does non-duality feel like? How does one know the ego has been dissolved?

A. It doesn’t feel like anything in particular. Everything is exactly as it is, but without a “me” behind it. The ego isn’t dissolved, it’s seen as something that was never there.

Q&A

Q. What happens to free will in non-duality? If everything is unfolding as it must including my choices , am I choosing? Or am I just watching choices happen?

A. The question comes from the assumption that there’s a separate chooser somewhere behind the scenes. When that assumption drops, the tension drops with it.

Q. Does it matter if there is no self when it feels real and must function in the world?

A. It doesn’t matter... the feeling of a self is just what’s appearing. It functions, it does what it does, but it’s not you. You don’t have to get rid of it or change it. Let it appear and disappear. You’re the knowing of it, not the self that seems to show up.

Q. How to get rid of what doesn’t exist?

A. There’s no need to get rid of it, it simply appears as it appears, and only the belief that you’re inside it gives it any substance.

Q. What does “awakening” actually mean to you?

A. Awakening isn’t an event or a special state, it’s simply the clear seeing that the sense of being a separate someone was never actually there. Thoughts, feelings, and life continue as before, but the imagined center falls away. What remains is just what has always been here, without a “me” at the center of it.

 Q. People are not addicted to drugs and alcohol. They are addicted to escaping reality.

A. Drugs and alcohol are just the tools that get used. The real addiction is to the idea of a separate “me” trying to get away from its own experience. When that “me” is seen for what it is, there’s no one left who needs to escape reality.